The Church in the New Testament is the expansion of the family. The difficulties and problems of each are akin.
It follows, therefore, that if a man — a brother — a husband, is incompetent in the management of the home, he is thereby unsuited for the task of sharing in the government of the Ecclesia (1 Tim. iii. 5).
Consider the demand placed upon the husband as the head of the home (Ephes. v. 23), the example of godliness, the ability to help young life, the capacity to teach, the tact to deal with disobedience and the courage to handle faithfully any manifestation of wilfulness. In a word, he must be able to create such an atmosphere that at once makes holy living a possibility and an attraction. Of what use as a spiritual counsellor and overseer in the Church is a brother who fails in these matters in the home? (1 Tim. iii. 4).
More and more it becomes imperative, in view of dark and dangerous days ahead, that we call to leadership only those men who by virtue of faithfulness in the home are qualified to advise, warn, instruct, and rebuke the members of the great family of God.
“4 one that ruleth well his own house, having his children in subjection with all gravity; 5 (but if a man knoweth not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the church of God?)” (1Ti 3:4-5 ASV)
“ For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, being himself the saviour of the body.” (Eph 5:23 ASV)